In a Good Place

Wednesday, Aug 03

I’ve made some important decisions lately; some of them are about starting something and some of them are about stopping something.  🙂

Have you ever quit a group, not because there was anything wrong with the people in that group,  but because you didn’t like who you were becoming in the context you found yourself in?  I just deleted myself from the Swapbot site, where I’ve been swapping artist trading cards for the last few years, for exactly that reason.  I was getting too worried about whether or not I got a heart when swappers rated my card.  I began to feel angry–sounds silly, doesn’t it?–and of course that took all the fun out of my reason for joining in the first place–making artist trading cards.  It’s a little like that old Marx brothers joke–“Doctor,” one says, while perched on an examining table, “It hurts when I do that.”  (Lifting an arm or a leg, something simple like that).  The doctor whacks the patient on the head and says, “Well, then, don’t do that!”

Me: Doctor, it hurts when I spend hours making an artist trading card and the other person gives me a low rating.

Doctor: (With accompanying whack on the head.)  Then don’t put yourself in that situation!

Oh, the freedom.  I had no idea how much all this was weighing on me.  I can make artist trading cards for the original reason–because I love it.  And now I’m off to do something I love even more than art–writing my new book.

Thanks for lending an ear.

About Linda

The daughter of a town marshal, Linda Lael Miller is a #1 New York Times and USA TODAY bestselling author of more than 100 historical and contemporary novels, most of which reflect her love of the West.

Raised in Northport, Washington, Linda pursued her wanderlust, living in London and Arizona and traveling the world before returning to the state of her birth to settle down on a horse property outside Spokane.

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